So this week, I was totally flattered by the fantastic Darren over at The Arty Plantsman, who nominated me for the Unique Blogger Award!
I highly recommend you all to take a look at his page! Darren is a nature lover, and produces mind-blowingly beautiful photos! He also writes excellent blogs focusing on Mental Health, life experiences, and has a fantastic sense of humour which is heavily reflected through his posts. You can take a look here:
I was really touched to be nominated for this award. As a total newbie to the blogging world, only starting in August, it has meant so much to me that someone has enjoyed reading my posts, and so I would really like to say thank you once again to Darren-this really did mean so much to me.
As part of nominating me, Darren has asked me the following questions. So, here goes!
1 If you could return to an earlier moment in your life and change direction would you? If so -when would that be and why? What would be the downside?
Absolutely yes! I feel that throughout my life, I have made several bad choices, and certainly have not always been the best version of myself. This is something that I work on a lot these days, and am completely committed to being a good person.
But the main thing I would change if I could, would be to go back to being 18 years old, when I finished college. At that point in my life, I truly believed that in order to be happy and successful in my life, I needed to earn as much money as possible, buy as much “stuff” as possible, and be exactly what everyone else wanted me to be. I spent so much time trying to turn myself into someone else, and believed the only way I could possibly be loved and accepted by others was to look and act a certain way.
The sad thing about this, is that I spent so much time practically starving myself, exercising to the point of exhaustion, plastering my face in make up, and wearing hair extensions so heavy that I had a permanent head ache. And I was so wrapped up in trying to be something else, that I never showed anyone my true self. I didn’t realise my own worth or strength, and didn’t understand that the way I looked was simply a shell, and nothing more than that. I didn’t show my own depth, which ironically was where my true beauty existed!
So if I could go back, I would go back to that age, and instead of focusing on money, material things, and pleasing others, I would instead have focused on my dreams and aspirations, and followed my heart instead of money. I realise now that “success” is not measured by how much money we have in the bank, but rather by how full our lives are, and how full we make the lives of others.
The only downside of making this change, however, would be that I have learned a lot from the mistakes I have made in my life, and I wonder whether had I taken a different path, would I still have the same values that I have developed through my experiences.
2 What act of kindness are you going to perform for someone this month? Doing nothing is not an option – so get thinking! The world is messed up and it is time to push back. Even visiting a blogger who is having a hard time and saying hello is something – let us look after each other.
What a fantastic question! I totally agree, this should never be an option to do nothing kind!
I regularly try to commit to acts of kindness, and as such I often do voluntary work. Having friends who also suffer with their mental health, I also often cook meals for friends which I deliver to them and leave in their fridge, to make sure they eat properly when they feel too down to cook for themselves.
However, this month in particular, I will be collecting food for my local food bank, which helps struggling individuals and families who for various reasons are unable to afford to feed their families. The food banks are a complete lifeline to many people in our communities, and with no government funding, they are completely dependent on donations for the general public. I regularly donate to my local food bank, but a few times a year I get friends, family and colleagues on board to collect as much as possible and take a large delivery to the food bank to distribute to those most in need.
Food banks often get bad press, with people assuming they are taken advantage of. Some politicians have even suggested that they are not needed at all. I would like to take a quick moment to stress to everyone reading that this is absolutely not the case. As someone who works within a support environment, I can honestly say I have seen so many people and families with absolutely no food in their homes, or enough money for basic hygiene products. Poverty happens everywhere in different forms, and in truth, none of us know what is around the corner. If I were ever to fall on such hard times, I would like to hope that my community would also be willing to help me.
Every small donation helps, and just imagine if everyone who was able to, just simply donated one single item. Can you imagine how much food would be collected? Can you imagine how many people that would feed? Can you imagine how many parents would not need to sacrifice their own meal in order that their children could eat that day? It really is amazing what a difference we can all make. We can change things, if only we would all try.
3 What was your favourite toy as a child? Do you still have it?
Another great question! My absolute favourite childhood toy was a little plastic type writer that my parents bought for me for Christmas when I was about seven. I used to spend hours in my bedroom writing stories and poems on it, and then reading them out to my parents who would cheer and tell me that one day I would be a super famous author-what a lovely dream! Just for a laugh, here was the first poem I ever wrote on my little type writer, aged seven. My parents still have this framed on their wall! Here goes:
Flowers, Flowers, in the ground.
They don’t make a noise or a sound.
They don’t jump in puddles,
They don’t keep asking for cuddles.
Instead, they grow peacefully.
So perhaps I was not born to be a poet! But this does bring back fond memories, and the one thing that is for certain is that I absolutely have always loved writing, in one form or another.
As part of this award, I am also to nominate 8 others. I have not forgotten to do so, and will be following up with a Part Two soon, detailing those I choose to nominate. It will be a difficult choice, as so many of the blogs I follow are absolutely brilliant and inspiring, and I aspire so much to be as good as lots of you! This is why I want to take my time on this, and get it right!
One last word to Darren-thank you so much again for this wonderful compliment, and for sharing my blog with others. I genuinely cannot express enough how happy this made me.
To be continued!!!